Tuesday 2 February 2010

The age of style

Becoming an adult, becoming a mum, getting older are such strange things. In my head, I'm about 18 years old and am wearing Doc Martens, floral skirt and a suede jacket all while listening to Nirvana, Pavement, Sebadoh, The Stone Roses, Oasis, Blur. Somewhere along the way I became a 33-year-old mother of two, wife of one.

Often it feels like the inner-me doesn't match the outer-me. Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy with being a mum and wife, I'm just talking about the superficial aspects of my life. Now that I'm a housewife, should I be donning pearls and twin sets?

For the past few years I think I've been wearing clothes and looking like I feel I 'should', rather than what's really me. Even before kids, I don't think I was particularly true to my inner style (not that it's that stylish!). Now I am lost, and when I go shopping I feel a bit confused and find myself asking:
"Is that appropriate? Am I going to look like mutton dressed as lamb?". Over the past 15 years, I've misplaced myself and am only just beginning to find my look again.

I guess I want the outside to reflect what's going on on in the inside. I've never really been into how I look, but it's nice to be comfortable in your skin. It's not about being attractive or being fashionable or being different. More about being me.


  1. I'm relieved I'm not the only one grappling with this :). I've attempted to write about it but only got about half-way through it.

    In my 20's, I felt my clothing made up a large part of what defined me. I wouldn't wear certain things because they didn't sit in with what I thought was my image, which I suppose was largely indie/Mod.
    Lately my wardrobe has consisted of whatever's cheap and looks reasonably okay from Target, Threadless t-shirts and my ever reliable mary-janes/Converse. And to be honest, while it's all practical, it's beginning to bore me rigid, being stuck in the void between jeans and t-shirts and conservative library clothes. So I'm looking for ways to break out of it a little! I have such a firm idea of what doesn't suit me that it's hard to define what does.

  2. OMG! I am half-way through writing a post about pretty much the same thing!!
    I think the clothes we wear project an "image" that says a lot about who we are. I am srtuggling with the same thing, matching my inner attitude with my age and trying to find the right clothes to show that - all the while trying not to spend any money, AND find something that fits. Sigh

  3. God, it's hard isn't it? Everything Sarah C and Quix has said resonates loud and clear with me.
    Sarah - I loved the red top you were wearing the other day!
    Quix - when you find the answer, can you let me know?? It's a lot harder than just having an hour to yourself at the shops isn't it?

  4. This is our quest! I used to be a bit of a fashionista - since moving out to the boon docks and having a baby am a lot daggier. Though it doesn't sit well with me because I feel yep I know who I am these days and it'd be kinda cool to have that reflected in my attire too. Wish I had Trinny and Susannah on hand haha

  5. Interesting post. I have never been a slave to fashion or the expectations of others, but I certainly have noticed a change in my style over the years. This is purely because my body has changed over the years. While I used to wear stuff that emphasised my boobs and bum, now I try to accentuate my boobs in a desperate attempt to draw attention AWAY from my bum! Ah, gotta love getting older ...

  6. I'm only 22 and I struggle with this. I feel like I'm not really sure where to go from here.

  7. "More about being me." Must *try* and chant that one everyday. Thanks Corinne.XO

  8. It took me a while after my oldest was born to figure out how to still be "me" while being a "mom".
    I mean, I gave birth with a hoop in my nose...and a couple months later felt like if I didn't wear floral sundresses people would think I was a bad mom!

    Fifteen years later, I still evolve, and fashion is a huge part of my life (I work in the industry) and I feel like I can balance the two. Took long enough! ;)

    Check out the shopping/fashion blog I write - you might like it!

  9. Thanks for the link Eleanor, off to check it out now.


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